Community Guidelines & Behavioral Expectations

PLEASE NOTE THAT GUIDELINES EVOLVE EVERY NOVEMBER AND ARE SENT TO ALL MEMBER TIERS YEARLY.

If you would like to be in good standing for Membership, we ask that all Sensual Sanctuary Souls make an effort to do the following:

Respect Yourself & Others

Please note that “yourself” is first but not above “others.” Lead with empathy and express your perspective often. We encourage members to think about and express their needs and desires, but remember to respect others and their opinions and values. If something isn’t a fit or feel right, respect your future self and check-in. We value communication and transparency here.

Support The Sensual Sanctuary & Other Members

You can support The Sensual Sanctuary financially or with works of service or trade, but we also mean here that we seek emotional support by showing up for yourself and others authentically and whole-heartedly when possible. Most events are donation level and are self-selected, meaning that we provide space for many who come from varying financial backgrounds, so give when it is possible and please never feel that you need to maintain giving a particular amount. We understand that life goes through seasons of abundance and prosperity, so we thank you for every blessing you send our way.

Example: $5-$55 [ Self-Selected Scale]

• If you can give more and want to support the mission, we appreciate your additional support to help run the cost and keep events going strong.

Be Mindful of Boundaries & Consent

Because we prioritize safety [physical, psychological, emotional, etc.] above all, we ask that you do the inner-work of discovering what boundaries you want to draw for yourself and others and practice safe and consent protocols. The Sensual Sanctuary requires all Members to yearly engage in a consent workshop, and offer boundaries workshops, and personal development resources and events for those who prefer or desire guidance. Remember to wait for verbal and enthusiastic consent. Anything less is a “no,” unless linguistic parameters for a scene have been established between all partners and voyeurs present [e.g. CNC Kink].

Express Yourself Respectfully

Because we create experiential events, we create incentives to those who abide by dress code requests, meaning that we truly invite creativity and expression. However, above all, we want you to feel comfortable, but please take note that most members take great fun in conjuring up costumes or outfits for events. We ask that if there are words or language on your shirt, to be mindful of what it says. So overall, please be respectful of others and express yourself creatively.

Contribute to the Evolution

We love to see growth, even as a whole community. That is why consent workshops are required by all members yearly and community guidelines evolve yearly in November. However, we will evolve constantly as new members join. Thus, we ask that you speak up when you feel something is important, even if it is through our anonymous suggestion box. We ask that you advocate for your wellness, so we can support you in your exploration. For example, if you have epilepsy and want to safely explore electro-play, make sure anyone who plays with you knows, as this genre of play might not be safe for you and requires more caution. If we don’t know if something is safe, our community practice is to remind everyone to hold the mentality of: “not this time, but I’ll research that.” There will always be more play opportunities, and if we aren’t 100% sure that we are safe, then the answer is “no.” Research it and share the knowledge with us. We are all continually learning and evolving together.

Remember to Act with Accountability & Awareness

To extrapolate on the previous note, please remember that at the end of the day, you are accountable for you. When someone says “no,” that is a complete sentence. You are responsible for saying “no” if you don’t feel enthusiastic about a play opportunity. We only want you to play when you feel aroused and enthusiastic to play, so please practice this word. With awareness, please remember that [1] it is helpful to seek awareness of others’ perspective and [2] humans make mistakes. If someone acts in a way that upsets you, let them know. They might not have the awareness that the behavior was hurtful and would appreciate knowing before they hurt someone else. Thus, act accountably, lend grace when you feel safe to do so, and be in a mindset to expand your awareness.

Note: I allow some other clubs making an effort to change the sex industry to cross-post events, so please get to know who is hosting events before deciding to attend.

Security & Consent:

If you are making someone feel unsafe, you will be asked to leave. We value consent and safety above all. No one under 18 will be permitted entry, unless it is a SEX Education event specifically hosted for minors.

Refund Policy

We do not offer refunds for events, but are happy to exchange your ticket for another if you have been upholding boundaries and have shown that you create safe spaces for exploration.